Wednesday, December 11, 2013

America calling ???...Some desi gyaan for you...

N number of people visit the USA for many reasons. Some visit for business, some for studies, some for tourism and many other purposes. I have had the privilege to be there on B1B2 (tourist visa) and then L2 that is (Dependent spouse visa). Each time that I have been to America...there are a few basic things that I have learnt about this country. Many intriguing and funny notes to be registered here. I will fill up some interesting insights about the USA. Hope they would fall useful for someone who visits the this country for the  first time.

1> Carry your passport copy all the time while you stay in USA. Original passport is a little risky to carry in a foreign country but a xerox of passport is very necessary. One's identity can be checked anytime any where in this country. Passports are the best bets if you are asked to provide a proof of age in case of purchasing liquor.

2>When you use some ones washroom for taking a bath. Be aware there are 2 curtains in the bath tub. One curtain needs to be taken inside of the bath tub...the other needs to be let loose outside the bath tub. As the force of the shower is so strong if both the curtains are left out side...water spills on the floor, in another scenario if both the curtains are taken inside the bath tub, once you step out the curtains again it will wet the floor form droplets of water.

3>The showers in most the bath tubs are adjustable. They have a knob on the top of the shower head...with which one can modify the flow of water according to ones liking.

4>Please do keep all your dental ammunition ready to be used. May be because of the closed environment...I mean to say...as most of the rooms are closed...and windows are hardly opened...foul breath is easily recognized and remembered! Using after mints, brushing before you go to work, using dental floss...keeping a chewing gum handy in your tote bag is always a wonderful idea.

4>Again because of the closed air environment...body odor is also easily detected. Using after shave, deodorant sticks, perfumes is highly recommended.

5>Walking shoes are a must in this country, if you are here for tourism. Depending upon which state you are visiting and which time of the year...makes a difference in what you should wear.

6>America being a developed country, most of the folk get intimidated when an American starts talking in their accent. There is nothing to be stressed about. Average American would feel bad that you could understand their mother tongue but they cannot. So here...you already are superior. Now just calm your nerves and listen to what the firangi says. They are pretty comprehensive when it comes to explaining a desi.

7>Most of the Americans are very gracious and friendly. Anytime of the day, you will find gora people greeting and asking things just to know if you are doing fine. They use a lot of adjectives in their daily gibber jabber. Like delightful, amazing, excellent, wow, awesome, wonderful, lovely, beautiful. As an Indian is not accustomed to such adjective loaded greetings. One tends to feel underscored by their civility. All you have to do is smile...smile genuinely...and say something good + morning, afternoon or evening...and say thank you.
That would work most of the time.

8>If you are visiting someone whom you have known before...and you are invited to their dwelling do not expect formality at all. They would ask for coffee or meals just once. If you say no, their culture does preach to quiz the guests intentions again and again on eats and drinks. Which according to me is sober and should be accepted affirmatively. And also remember, you are welcome hence you are at their house. Americans are particular about whom they would like to visited by.

9>Punctuality. This word holds a lot of weight still in their dictionary. They are very time oriented and appreciate people who respect and keep commitments by meeting and doing things on time.

10> Most of the hotels, cafes and shops have free Wifi. Even Amtrak which is railways...has wifi. Amazing isn't it?

11>Americans are warm to those whom they really appreciate and love spending time with. Hugging and cheek peck kissing is a usual way of expressing affection. And they do it with so much of APNAPAN...that one really does feel loved and wanted. So if you are a dear person and and have been good to someone any time of your visit...be prepared to be hugged...that is another reason to maintain dental and body-odor hygiene. :->

12> Proximity. That is another point of concern. They like to have personal space everywhere. You would see public transport or public places...crowded...but still people having a hand full distance from one another. They would not even enter an elevator if there are already 3 people inside...terming it to be a little busy/tight.

13> America is the best place for pedestrians. A pedestrian can cross a road at the ped Xing....even without looking back to see if he would be hit by road traffic. Drivers are patient and courteous to pedestrians...and they feel bad for those ped's who walk with groceries in their hands. For them any foreigner who is walking with grocery in their hands is a very poor sight to see. Many drivers offer a drop if they have time to stop and convince you to enter their cars. I have witnessed this courtesy so many times...while I was there. But I always took my grocery walking as an aerobic activity that hence enjoyable.
There are signals designed for pedestrians to push button and opt for a walk sign in next possible minute, which by the was is like a blessing when one needs to cross really wide and busy roads.

14>If you are driving, its best to have GPS activated on your phone, if not...take Google map directions preferably a print out. There will absolutely be no paan wala's or mochi or a kiraana shop to direct you to your already missing destination.

15>If you are undergoing a treatment/ or have some sort of allergy carry most of your medicines along with you. Critical or I can say even not so critical medicines are only given on prescription. Although variety of over the counter pharmacies are available throughout USA.

16> For children below the age of 5 years it is mandatory to be seated in a car seat. Although each state has a different rule that needs to be observed by its people. And because the traffic there is fast paced...all Americans do care for the child and have car seats matching the appropriate age and size of the child.

17>Most of the cities in USA do have an Indian Store. One can find anything and everything in these stores. They are very well equipped with Indian groceries. One can get pressure cookers, jhaadu's, sweets, Indian clothing and all the stuff one can need for mandirs.

18> Outlet malls are worth visiting in this country. Especially during holidays or discount periods. One can have the best of the deals. Another amazing thing about these malls is...if you purchased an item from one shop and later find out that the same or a better item of your like is available at lesser price, you can just go back and return the item you purchased at the first place. If you paid in cash you get a cash back..or else the amount gets credited to your credit/debit card in a couple of days.

19> While eating at a restaurant if you find something unusual about the food served to you, you can ask the waiter to just replace it with another dish or decide not to eat at all at that same place.

20>There is a lot of comfort to be felt in case of home improvement and maintenance. Instead of ramu's or sarla bai....they have dishwashers, coffee makers, waste disposal in the sink, laundry with washers and dryers, vacuum cleaners and blowers. Cleaning is maintaining ones house is fun and pleasant.

Each country has its distinguishing points. With the USA I can say its diversity, its cosmopolitan approach, its acceptance towards foreigners from around the world is its spark. It definitely provides a better standard of living. Welfare regulates the lives of poor people and in turn provides them better prospects to grow in life.Perhaps for a person who is a desi really serious desi adjusting to America's individualistic life may be a great hastle...But if you do get a chance t o visit USA I know you will not miss it for the world...you will definitely have great time there...and if you too find something extraordinary about this amazing country...do post it for me...I will love to hear your point of view too.

Wednesday, December 4, 2013

KaiDangku

As usual evenings I came out in the lobby to play with Ananya and enjoy the beautiful sunset that Norcross had to offer us. There came another Chinese baby with his mom dad to play. Like many east Asians this kid's parents too did not socialize with the others in the hotel lobby. The kid was almost as old as Ananya I guess....his name was Tutu...he was so cute and enjoyable just to watch playing around.

Tutu was entering the lobby just then I looked twice at his pants. Unusually his pants were torn so that we could clearly see his butt cracks. Very customarily, like a very involved Indian...I went ahead and addressed his parents to know that they made their child wear pants that were torn...or slit from behind...and we could all see his butts. Rather than of being ashamed of the exposing their Bambi's buttocks in public...they gave me the most hardheaded stare...abstractly telling me to mind my own business...and buzz off. And when they turned around to strike me with their severe look...I saw that crotch area of Tutu's pants was also torn. Ummm...the tear...it can't be so coincidental...that a parent can make his kid wear such torn pant without noticing.

I came back home...told Manish about it. He too said there must be some story to this. When I am having a global issue...I use Google...to my surprise the pants Tutu was wearing are called KaiDangku meaning "open crotch pants". I was amazed to learn about their use...in weaning from diapers...after being fed up with diapers.

Instead of disposable diapers, many Chinese babies wear kaidangfu, pants with a slit in the bottom of the pants. kāidāngkù, ‘open crotch pants’) look like regular infant pants except there is a long slit extending from the front to the back seat of the pants. The design provides minimum exposure of a child’s buttocks especially when crawling.  
   
 
 The design allows babies and toddlers to easily relieve themselves.
Kaidangku are worn by babies and toddlers who have not been toilet trained or who are in the process of being toilet trained. Kaidangku have been worn by Chinese children for decades.
As disposable diapers have become more and more popular, kaidangku are worn less and less though youngsters who wear diapers may wear them on hot days to avoid diaper rash. Kaidangku remain popular in rural towns in China while parents in cities are increasingly switching to disposable diapers.

  
Looks like Chinese also do not care about the social criticism just as how we Indians do when we wean away our kids from diapers. We too leave our children without diapers and tolerate the yellow output. Although it was very persistent of Tutu's parents to follow Kaidangku culture in America...a country which is so particular about hygiene and toilet manners.While researching for this I came by a comment that cracks me up every time I think about it. Some foreigner must have posted on a Chinese blog mentioning what a filthy way of toilet training Kaidangku pants were...in defense there was a comment from a Chinese person quoting..."In your country it is acceptable to have pet grounds...and walk with a shovel and pan collect your pets filth...but it is unacceptable to do the same for your own child. So much to say for a environment friendly country.!!!"
Well after all my google gyaan...whenever I saw Tutu...very stoically I smiled in my mind but not on my face...and said to myself...'culture to some... vulture to many!!!'

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