In
the recent times two extreme brutalities have clogged up our minds
& newspapers. Both are equally disgusting as well as disrespectful
to human race. I am talking about the Delhi gang rape case & the
beheading of our Indian soldiers. We blame our neighboring country of
being brutal, inhuman and merciless in their approach towards relations
over line of control. How inhuman can we call ourselves when a minor and
his friends, rape a girl and then torment her to near death. Blood and
antagonism can still be expected on a battleground, but cruelty &
violence in an organized environment cannot be expected. The news
bounces that enemy soldiers who carried out the beheading were rewarded
prize money for their act of enmity. To me similarly, the accused who is
a minor is rewarded his freedom buy terming him as a ‘juvenile’ who
cannot be punished for his aggressiveness which might include raping a
girl, attempting to kill her & inserting a rod in her vagina.
Ouch!!!….while typing this…my heart beat shoots up…I feel goose bumps
and can only imagine the atrocity Nirbhaya might have gone through that cold
winter night in Delhi. Still according to our judiciary system that poor
chap is a minor and should not be punished!!!
What
has happened of Nirbhaya and her life is very sad. There are people of
different stature and authority who gave their opinions about this sad
incident and the ways Nirbhaya could have escaped that night. Amongst
many is a statement of a heightened spiritual guru who quotes "Only
five-six people are not the culprits. The girl is as guilty as her
rapists... She should have called the culprits brothers and begged
before them to stop... This could have saved her dignity and life. Can
one hand clap? I don't think so”. Apart from this he even mentioned that
she should have recited the ‘Gayatri Mantra’ to avert the barbaric
encounter that night. In what frame of mind is this man in? Let us call
upon the Guru in a gathering of angry women and the family members of
Nirbhaya’s family who are irritated & frustrated with what life has
offered them and bereaved them off, take a finger long metal nail and
plant it in his nose until he starts bleeding. Ask him to call us his
brother, sister, master….anything that he could think of us and even let
him recite the hanuman chalisa, the gayatri mantra and any sankat
mochan shlokas. Do you think the aggravated mob would stop ???....If it
was for me…..I would not STOP! Gang rape accused are mentally ill. This
kind of petty or moralistic coaxing hardly affects their sadistic
behavior. Sorry Nirbhaya…I regret having Dharam gurus like him who can
quote anything for mere publicity. Please be in peace wherever you are
now for you are no more in this untamed harsh world.
I
have lived in the NCR for 4 years with my husband. In the initial 6
months I understood that it’s not safe for women to be out late. It is
not the question of why not the women can be out???...When I know that
in jungle the beasts and uncertainty both are out to its peak, why not
take precaution and stay safe. After all it is our own security. I would
like my womenfolk to carry small daggers, black pepper sprays and a lot
of vigilance. Other sad thing associated with rape is morality. If a
girl is raped and still survives…why does she become a model of unmoral
values? Why is she disassociated from a community, why is she given a
second glance, why is seen as white pigeon amongst the other black
pigeons. We as a society should help her find peace and live like a
normal human being. She was a victim who now has all the rights to live
freely and with her head held high. When by mistake a cloth falls down
in a dirty puddle, we wash it, soak it and dry it in the air and
continue wearing it as it is clean. Likewise should a rape victim be
treated. While citing my views on issues like this…I would even like to
say for me the men who have certain desires and fulfill their thirst for
sex by visiting sex workers by paying them are much better off than men
who just quench their thirst of unfulfilled desires by raping innocent
girls and ruining their lives. “Seedhi baat no bakwaas!!!”
These days there is a very
common trend of showing that we are a part of your grief for that reason we go
light a candle, wear white clothes and become a part of an Andolan. I
want to ask those people who have lit candles and walked the many
andolans against injustice ….especially with passing away of Nirbhaya
just before the New Year…how many of you did not celebrate New Year’s
night. How many of you did not party, did not drink and did not wear
fancy clothes. Honest confession, I also cooked good food, had a nice time with my family & friends. My point is that…by
walking in andolans or by lighting candles…does not serve any intention.
We have to bring the change. We have to practice protection for ourselves.
We should try hard enough to be a good citizen. We have to be the one by
our ways & methods, who can actually have the other women folk
literally keep the name ‘Nirbhaya’….the fearless.
Let us
be the change we want to see.
We are sorry Nirbhaya that we lost you. Rest in peace. You are now safe.
